There is a couple I know that are having martial difficulties. One of them believes it to be a "spiritual issue" (i.e. Satan is attacking the other spouse) and doesn't seem to be interested in resolving things until this other person is "right with God."
It's going to be extremely hard for them to get anywhere because the problem that is being painted as a "spiritual issue" is in fact a
relational issue.
I guess I'm just seeing (in general, in the world) that religion is sticky and it can really get us "stuck." It also has the ability to justify our behavior. If you say "God is telling me to do
this" (even though it's not the most loving, accepting, and open action), how is someone supposed to disagree with you? When we're convinced that we are right... that our actions are justified by God...we become suicide bombers and stubborn asses.
Religion - spirituality - at its best can be about
stripping us of what we think and want - as well as liberating us from our preconceived notions and conditioned responses. It has the potential to make us
more open and
more widely accepting... not more rigid and closed. My hope is that as we all grow spiritually, we are able to say (as my buddy
Tommy puts it): "I know nothing."
To slightly tweak a classic story: A young religious type went to visit a famous spiritual teacher. While the master quietly served tea, the young man talked about his own opinions of life and of God. The master poured the visitor's cup to the brim, and then kept pouring. The man watched the overflowing cup until he could no longer restrain himself. "It's overfull! No more will go in!" he blurted. "You are like this cup," the master replied, "How will you be open to what God is
really like unless you first empty your cup."